Get On Your Bird

Objective: In this lesson, you will learn a special process called IN-Vizion® to create a way to easily give you perspective on seeing your situations objectively as opposed to being overwhelmed by the feeling of the situation and losing all perspective, therefore not being able to detach from the emotional overwhelm of the situation.

A simple way to look at that would be that if you were mad at someone and were yelling at them, you’d be deeply emotionally connected to your feelings—overwhelmed with the emotions. If you held up a mirror in front of you and blocked your view so all you could see was yourself yelling, you would automatically disconnect from the emotion by the mere act of observing and you would get an entirely different perspective. It would diffuse your feelings entirely. And vice versa, if you were being yelled at and we held up a mirror to show how you were reacting, we could also disconnect you from the emotional overwhelm you’re feeling.

The In-Vizion® Process, although not a mirror exercise, has the immediate impact of diffusing you from an emotional overwhelm and puts you back in control by creating something called spatial distance.

• The Get On Your Bird! Lesson, a technique derived from Colette’s IN-Vizion® Process that helps you get calm and detached from your overwhelm, stress, and problems of the moment by rising above them and seeing them from a new distant perspective as smaller, allowing you to return to a neutral state of present moment awareness.
• Learn about the Food/Body Plan which contains some simple and extremely useful techniques derived from mindful eating practices.
• You will hear a story from Dr. Bruce Lipton about how stress and the release of our body’s own stress hormone, called cortisol, can keep us trapped in a constant hyper-vigilant physical state that is a deterrent to weight loss.
• There will be a list of 5 questions to think about, ponder, and journal about if you wish, to help you explore your relationship with food and weight issues and the effect they have and will have on your life past, present, and future.
• Colette will discuss and do a meditative exercise that leads you through the process of how to “Get On Your Bird” to find perspective, present moment awareness and relief.

Dial Down the Drama

Objective: In this lesson, you will learn how to recognize two sources of drama - external and internal - and take steps to reduce this energetic noise from your life.

As a highly sensitive and empathic people, you can easily get overwhelmed by the energies and emotional states of the people around you. This may not new information to you, we know, but the question is: how do you deal with it?

• How sharing and engagement are important to our class experience
• Why we use our Facebook virtual classroom to find support and relief
• Why we focus on Dialing Down the Drama
• How entertaining drama damages our health and keeps us fat
• How to recognize our go-to patterns
• How to create and reinforce new patterns
• Why the stories we tell ourselves keep us stuck
• What a Pity Pot is and how you will use it
• What the Dumping Grounds Journal is, and how to use it
• What the Gratitude Journal is and how to use it
• How to identify the different forms drama takes in your life so you can recognize it, identify where it comes from, and shut it down
• The two types of drama: external and internal.
• How to shut down the drama and find freedom by choosing perspective.
• An exercise called the “Slippery Blue Bubble” to help you Dial Down the Drama

Neutralize The Chatter Box

Objective: The Chatterbox is the continuous dialogue in your head that we will now harness for the power of good, by replacing the internal critical voice with self-nurturing, supportive thoughts.

Your inner Chatterbox is a non-stop talker. It notices things, catalogues information, makes lists, plans the sequential order of activities, analyzes data, makes judgments, offers solutions,... the list - and the voice - goes on and on. This is necessary, and extremely useful when the voice is neutral or supportive; HOWEVER, it is very damaging, when full of criticism. The Chatterbox process will help you find a different perspective of the thoughts in your mind, and it will give you relief by helping you gain some distance from this constant dialogue. We will then learn how to retrain this voice, filling it with loving and supportive thoughts. Your mind chatter will begin to send a new message, one that lets you know that all is well!

By tipping the scales (pun intended!), engaging in more self-acceptance and self-love than in self-bullying, you will create a new state of being that tells your body to release extra weight and find its own natural balance.

• Discover why pictures and images are more powerful than words
• Read about how InVizion® gives us the tools to make real change
• Learn why our inner critic does what it does
• Remove your inner critic from power and give this guy a new job!
• Replace criticism found in the Chatterbox with supportive messages
• Practice a new story that says: I am safe

Practice My Power To Choose

Objective: In Lesson 4, you will anchor your understanding of how perspective runs the show. Take charge of HOW you look at things, and you will become the sole director of your emotional experience and physical well being - the CHOICE is always yours!

Choice is the tipping point between feeling disempowered and empowered. You’ll discover that you really do have a choice in determining how you feel. By taking charge of your emotional experience, you literally take charge of your body's physical expression of health.

Anytime you feel frustrated, irritated, angry, overwhelmed, stressed, taken advantage of, anxious, underappreciated, or generally upset about something, you’ve simply lost the awareness that you have a choice. You’ve given away your power and made an unconscious declaration: "That circumstance or person over there has the power to determine how I feel." But does it, or do they?

The solution is simple - change your perspective - but don't minimize what an incredible quantum leap in awareness this is!!

It's enormous beyond words... it's everything.

Pause a moment and breathe in this knowing: a seed has been planted and you are already forever changed. You DO have a choice, and there now exists a part of you that knows this for certain. You will have moments when you forget - we all do - but trust the process. We cannot unlearn anything that resonates with truth...

And so it is.

• that your Chatterbox chatters about whatever your point of attention is
• how curiosity empowers you
• that your perspective and thoughts determine your emotional experience
• that most perspectives come from subconscious programming
• that you can always change your perspective
• how your feelings can be seen as a landscape
• how choosing a new landscape changes your emotional experience
• what your perspective is of you
• how to fill your Chatterbox with supportive thoughts
• that discomfort is necessary part of change

I Am What I Think

Objective: Thoughts are the cornerstone of creation; by harnessing the power of an intentionally chosen, Love-based perspective, we direct our thoughts and make magic - Hot Mamma Magic that melts away pounds!

Do your thoughts really matter? Mind chatter is just invisible jibber-jabber that no one else can see, so what’s the big deal? It’s a very big deal, as a matter of fact, because your thoughts create an environment that either contributes to your stress or to your well-being. What you think determines how you feel, and how you feel determines your body’s expression of physical health, including whether or not it carries extra pounds.

It’s your inner world that determines how you deal with your outer world and is what will impact whether you’ll carry extra weight, or not.

In this lesson, you will practice by-passing your old thought patterns and learn how to create new ones. You’ve turned the corner and are ready to claim your new state of being, one that reflects your truest self, inside and out!

Your true self is that of well-being in all ways, connected in a harmonious way to all things.

This lesson is all about self-love, too! You’ll replaced the old, out-dated story that was telling your body that it wasn’t safe with one that says it IS safe. Now you will grow this message into one that let’s YOU know you are cherished and loved, too.

• that you are what you think
• that discomfort is your (temporary) friend
• how the IN-Vizion® Process and spontaneity will help you break patterns
• why telling our stories allows us to hide and keeps us trapped
• how to stop trying and allow the magic to happen
• to reclaim more of your power and restore your perspective of beauty, YOUR beauty
• how to reconnect with your body and love yourself more!

My Awesome New Tools

Objective: We will review your new tools and pack your toolkit with a few more. We’ve addressed how empathy can lead to enmeshment and have taught you how to find relief and create clear boundaries… Now it’s time to reconnect!

You’ll have learned all the tools you need to free your Hot Mamma You… No tricks, no hidden formulas… just practical methods to claim this new state of being.

The previous lessons will also have taught you the perfect tools to...

Practice being gentle with yourself and let yourself off the hook.
Practice self-compassion and release all judgment.
Practice self-care; take care of your needs first, others after.
Practice being curious and observe your emotions from a distance.
Practice Getting On Your Bird; you know now that perspective changes everything, including your body.
Practice connecting with you; the connection you ache for is right here, available to you everywhere you go; it is you that you seek.
Practice loving yourself and be done with self-bullying.

• three new tools for managing overwhelming emotion
• some important tips from my book Weight Loss For People Who Feel Too Much that will help you carry your practices forward
• how releasing isolation will further support your new story